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Is this Condescending?

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Interesting interaction I had today. If you got an email including the following words, what would you think?
Obviously I've removed the context and protected the sender, but my heart hurt a little bit when I got this. Am I just being a bit of a wuss? Am I right? Would love some comments giving some feedback.

JG

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At 7/12/2006, Blogger arb® said...

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At 7/12/2006, Blogger arb® said...

it does feel confrontational to me. the lagnuage is strong, and it seems as though there are equally strong feelings behind it. if i received an e-mail such as that, i would probably feel upset. although, i can not comment on whether it's understandable b/c i don't know what preceded it.

sometimes individuals have no idea how terse and short they sound in e-mails. i've victimized some of my own loved ones by writing what seems perfectly assertive and reasonable to me but comes off as raving to them. i guess it's all part of the human struggle that is communication.

here's hoping that it will resolve well.

 
At 7/12/2006, Blogger Unknown said...

Yeah, context is everything, I know, but I just didn't think it was fair to include it. For what it's worth, I don't know the guy from Adam.

Thanks for the input and perspectives ... keep 'em coming.

JG

 
At 7/12/2006, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Definitely condecending. Was this from a professional reply on behalf of a company? If so...their superior should know that people are being responded to in such an unprofessional manner. I'd fire anyone who was that rude to my customers.
And if it's not a professional reply--just an e-mail bewteen aquaintances--why do we treat friends/people we know with less courtesy than customers?

 
At 7/12/2006, Blogger Gerry Rojas said...

As someone who has to deal with these types of situations on a daily basis I would have to say that while it does sound hostile, one has to take into account where that person is coming from. Is this a foundational issue with the person? Emotional? etc etc.

It's NOT personal. It can't be. You don't know the person and vice versa.

I know you a little bit and you'll do the best you can with it.

 
At 7/12/2006, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Josh, if this person was writting in reguards to not having the Podcast for the last two weeks, I totally agree with them. Just Kidding.

If you don't know the guy personally, he probably just needed someone to vent to. Type back a nice note and be done with it.

 
At 7/12/2006, Blogger Unknown said...

The podcast is DONE (we recorded it yesterday morning) I'm just not sure if iTunes is up yet. Let me ask Matt.

JG

 
At 7/12/2006, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Having now read the original post and all of the comments, I would have to say that I agree with most of these people: If you do not know this man, and he responds to you with such terminology...then, yes it is conde-sounding...haha, just had to lighten the mood a bit.

 
At 7/12/2006, Blogger john Mitchem said...

Well Josh, what does the person role have in your life, if it somebody you value , value the comment, if you do not know them from Adam, well let roll of your back. If you let it roll off of your back, I will try to let the Middle School Parent, who unhappy with my choice for leaders at camp roll off of my back. If that does not work, I suggest Doug takes you to Outback and pay for the lunch.

John Mitchem

 
At 7/13/2006, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I see those words and immediately think of two more - "self-rghteous" and "loser".

I would hold his/her feet the fire, Josh, and help him to see the inappropriateness of such language.

Pray that this will clear the matter; if not, an email up the food chain might add needed pressure.

 

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